Are You Tough Enough To Adopt? (Part 2)

Written by Linny In part one, I wrote about our hopeful adoptive couple, Jill and Jon. I mentioned that they have a limited amount of money to spend in their attempt to have a child; and, that those who choose to build their family through pregnancy have little to ‘prove’ in order to show they’re worthy to become parents—-unlike people who choose to adopt a baby/child. Jill and Jon have already gone through the...

Adoptees: Choices, Not Blankets

It’s presumptuous to make a blanket statement about any group of people. It’s inappropriate to assume that an individual will like or dislike something without first getting his or her input. Then why are blanket statement being made about open vs. closed adoption? The unbiased truth about the matter is, there are voices from all triad sides proclaiming the merits of both, yes both. While this country proudly...

The Adoption Agency/Parent Relationship and its Ef...

Perhaps it was what somebody said before you started the adoption process. Perhaps it was the response to one of your answers. Maybe it was a personal comment that your social worker shared about parenting choices. Or, it could be an agency’s statement of beliefs or policies which put you on the guard. The fact is, our relationships with adoption professionals can shape how our attachment process will be to our future...

The What-If Game Of Adoption

You’re considering adopting a child. So much is going around in your mind! You know that there a few agencies in your state, and you call for information. You might get that “hooked like a fish” feeling, and you’re not getting the details that you want out of a first phone call. They want to set up a meeting. You politely hang up, but still leaving your contact information. So you sit there in your...

Open Adoption – Pros And Cons

We have a diverse group of parents (and those in the pre-parent stage) at our wonderful adoption forum. Some are in open adoptions and others, like myself are in closed adoptions. Still others are in alternative arrangements that work best for them and their children. As parents of this generations adoptees, we all know what works for one family may not work for another family. What are your thoughts on open adoption? What...

10 Adoption Profile Tips

One of our adoption forums members, Lori from Best Light Adoption Profile Reviews shares these ten useful tips for anyone putting together their adoption profile. So what makes a profile work? I gathered anecdotal research from birthparents and adoption counselors. While each birthparent comes with a viewpoint as unique as a fingerprint, here are some commonalities I found in what attracts and what doesn’t in a...