Adoption Support at Forever Parents

What Do You Want People To Know About Adoption?

I asked the wonderful mamas at the adoption support forum on Maya’s Mom what they wanted people to know about adoption. Here’s what they had to say.
(I’ll update this post as more replies come in)

1: Adoption is not second best, second choice or a last resort to parenthood. It is simply an alternate route I dreamt of adopting as a little girl just as I dreamt of being pregnant. Both of my dreams came true. Five times in fact.
mama4boyz1girl

2: Our children ARE our children - birth or adoption does not make us love them less or differently!
Adoption is an amazing gift - to US, the AP’s! Yes, we are providing a loving, stable home for the child - who might otherwise not have a permanent family - but we are being ALLOWED to raise these beautiful kids - we are the lucky ones!
Adoptive parenting is VERY similar to birth parenting - some concerns and issues are different, but we still have to set limits, send them to school, teach them values, etc.
Not all adoptees are angry - many are happy, and well adjusted too - just like birth children, adoptees face challenges with identity, friendships, etc.
Adoption is an amazing journey - full of things to learn, to cherish, and in the end it brings a family together!
Adopted children have a birth family (or family of origin), sometimes a foster family, or a family of caregivers from their orphanage, and their adoptive family - all are important!!!!
AdoptiveMom

3: Good question and love the responses. I would also say that my birth children and my adopted daughter are equally loved, equally cherished - my love for my adopted dd is just as if I had given birth to her. The other misconception is that adopting a baby through foster care is too big a risk regarding future developmental progress. In my opinion and experience we just don’t have any guarantees on our children’s health. My birth son ended up with learning disabilities and not my adopted daughter. I did everything ‘right’ when I was preggo with him. We just never know - they are all a gift.
gmaLinda

4: That they are children born in my heart. That I love them so much.
hotshuz

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