Comments on: Adoption Homestudy http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html ...since 2002 Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:57:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Adoption Homestudy | Angels http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-299 Adoption Homestudy | Angels Thu, 28 Feb 2008 03:34:56 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-299 [...] Original post by Adoption Support at Forever Parents [...] [...] Original post by Adoption Support at Forever Parents [...]

]]> By: Joanne http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-294 Joanne Fri, 22 Feb 2008 06:38:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-294 Hi Jessie...thanks!<br/><br/>Your case worker sounds like mine. She was a wonderful support for us and really helped us through the whole process. Hi Jessie…thanks!

Your case worker sounds like mine. She was a wonderful support for us and really helped us through the whole process.

]]> By: *~JESSIE~* http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-293 *~JESSIE~* Fri, 22 Feb 2008 05:57:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-293 This is a wonderful blog! When I started the process to adopt I was nervous about the home study. But I really enjoyed the process. I worked with a wonderful social worker and actually thought it was helpful to think about all the things in my past and present lifestyle that would influence me as a parent. This is a wonderful blog! When I started the process to adopt I was nervous about the home study. But I really enjoyed the process. I worked with a wonderful social worker and actually thought it was helpful to think about all the things in my past and present lifestyle that would influence me as a parent.

]]> By: Joanne http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-287 Joanne Thu, 21 Feb 2008 05:10:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-287 Hi Holly. :-) Hi Holly. :-)

]]> By: Holly Schwendiman http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-285 Holly Schwendiman Wed, 20 Feb 2008 15:28:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-285 I love seeing discussions like this - the best way to learn is to discuss with others who have been there. :)<br/><br/>Hugs,<br/>Holly I love seeing discussions like this – the best way to learn is to discuss with others who have been there. :)

Hugs,
Holly

]]> By: Eric Patnoe http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-184 Eric Patnoe Wed, 18 Jul 2007 16:15:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-184 The homestudy was almost therapeutic for us. It showed us what things in our lives shaped us and made us who we are. It clearly stated that we were ready to adopt. We both have had less than stellar childhoods yet that is what made us strong enough to take on and love 6 emotionally challenged children in addition to our 2 bios.<br/>Eric Patnoe<br/><a HREF="http://www.pandacurry.com" REL="nofollow">Panda Curry </a> The homestudy was almost therapeutic for us. It showed us what things in our lives shaped us and made us who we are. It clearly stated that we were ready to adopt. We both have had less than stellar childhoods yet that is what made us strong enough to take on and love 6 emotionally challenged children in addition to our 2 bios.
Eric Patnoe
Panda Curry

]]> By: petunia http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-176 petunia Thu, 05 Jul 2007 13:19:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-176 I was scared that they would take one look at our house and it wouldn't be clean enough or child-proof enough or we would answer the questions wrong...etc. After the first one I was SO relieved, the SW was so nice and put us at ease. They really do want to just see that you have a house that a child could be brought up in, and you both are normal people that just want to raise a child. I was worried for nothing. I was scared that they would take one look at our house and it wouldn’t be clean enough or child-proof enough or we would answer the questions wrong…etc. After the first one I was SO relieved, the SW was so nice and put us at ease. They really do want to just see that you have a house that a child could be brought up in, and you both are normal people that just want to raise a child. I was worried for nothing.

]]> By: Bad Dad http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-175 Bad Dad Wed, 04 Jul 2007 03:02:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-175 We went through the home study process back in 2000. It's very stressful and intimidating to feel like you are being analyzed by strangers.<br/><br/>It also felt embarrassing to ask people close to us to write letter of references about us. <br/><br/>The reality was everyone was glad to help. Plus the woman who conducted our initial home study and post placement visits was very nice.<br/><br/>As long as you are honest and don't appear to be hiding anything, there's really nothing to worry about. We went through the home study process back in 2000. It’s very stressful and intimidating to feel like you are being analyzed by strangers.

It also felt embarrassing to ask people close to us to write letter of references about us.

The reality was everyone was glad to help. Plus the woman who conducted our initial home study and post placement visits was very nice.

As long as you are honest and don’t appear to be hiding anything, there’s really nothing to worry about.

]]> By: Joanne http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-173 Joanne Tue, 03 Jul 2007 12:03:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-173 Danielle...I'm so glad that we were able to help a bit. Yes, Linny is always full of wisdom. <br/>:-) She has helped me through more than one crisis. <br/><br/>You're smart to express your concerns before you get involved. :-) Danielle…I’m so glad that we were able to help a bit. Yes, Linny is always full of wisdom.
:-) She has helped me through more than one crisis.

You’re smart to express your concerns before you get involved. :-)

]]> By: Danielle's Daily life http://foreverparents.com/2008/02/adoption-homestudy-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-171 Danielle's Daily life Mon, 02 Jul 2007 16:04:00 +0000 http://foreverparents.com/?p=211#comment-171 Thanks for posting that. I especially took note of when Linny said this: " They require people who've shown that they can get through tough periods of their lives....people who have shown they can take the meds they had to take, or get the counseling they needed in order to go on with life productively. "<br/><br/>I always thought they would see being on meds as a bad thing. <br/><br/>My husband and I were talking about the homestudy process just the other day. We are talking about starting the adoption process when our baby turns one year old. He compared the process to when I was pregnant. My pregnancy started out with a LOT of negativity, problems, and potential problems (and I handled/solved them well). He not only gave me the "See wasn't it worth it" line, but also asked me why I am so afraid to be denied by social workers. If we are (which we probably wouldn't be), then nothing is lost. If our fears don't come to pass, then we have another child. So, the only thing that can happen is a good thing. It isn't like they can really take anything *away* from us if we don't pass. <br/>He's right, and I don't know why I didn't think that one up on my own. <br/><br/>Thanks again for taking what I said so seriously- seriously enough to bring it up to other parents in order to give me their insights as well. <br/><br/>(We want an older child too) Thanks for posting that. I especially took note of when Linny said this: ” They require people who’ve shown that they can get through tough periods of their lives….people who have shown they can take the meds they had to take, or get the counseling they needed in order to go on with life productively. “

I always thought they would see being on meds as a bad thing.

My husband and I were talking about the homestudy process just the other day. We are talking about starting the adoption process when our baby turns one year old. He compared the process to when I was pregnant. My pregnancy started out with a LOT of negativity, problems, and potential problems (and I handled/solved them well). He not only gave me the “See wasn’t it worth it” line, but also asked me why I am so afraid to be denied by social workers. If we are (which we probably wouldn’t be), then nothing is lost. If our fears don’t come to pass, then we have another child. So, the only thing that can happen is a good thing. It isn’t like they can really take anything *away* from us if we don’t pass.
He’s right, and I don’t know why I didn’t think that one up on my own.

Thanks again for taking what I said so seriously- seriously enough to bring it up to other parents in order to give me their insights as well.

(We want an older child too)

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